I am very aware that not all people born in this time frame have an entitlement mindset. There is so much to learn from them regarding their view of the world and I have gotten much insight from people who fall into this category over the past year. Here are the highlights:
- This generation made inner vows just like we did.
Let me clarify. In this case an inner vow is a statement that you make to yourself after you have assessed how someone else lives their life and you become determined to live life another way. I realized from one of these young men that they watched the baby boomers (especially the women) decide that they could do everything, be everything, climb the corporate ladder, be great parents, have tons more stuff and somehow still have time to sleep. They sat back and quietly observed us working at the speed of light and being miserable in the process. They watched many of their mothers trap themselves in having to work a full time job and still be responsible for everything in the house because we were trying to prove to the men how amazing we are. Why did we do this to ourselves? Because we made inner vows that we wanted to have more than our parents did and we wanted to give our kids more than we had. As women, we also made an inner vow that we no longer wanted to be treated like second class citizens so we quietly killed ourselves. In that quite martyrdom, they were watching. They were deciding if they wanted this same life sentence. They decided otherwise. For this I applaud them! Here comes the grace extended to this generation………..It’s our fault that they adopted their own extreme. I’m apologizing. I have worked 5 years now to pull myself (with God’s help) out of striving. It’s liberating. I understand why they want their freedom!
2. Because of our inner vow, we spoiled you.
I think most baby boomers now take responsibility for why their kids are still living at home. I do know some who use the excuse that it’s so hard for 20 somethings to be able to afford a place to live on their own. The bottom line is if they didn’t have so many other wants, needs and desires coupled with their intense need for equal or even more play time versus work hours, that wouldn’t be an issue. We made up silly rules for them like “Your school work is your job right now” and gave them few if any chores. We didn’t have/take the time to teach them life skills. Somewhere along the line, we became intimidated by their entitlement and became afraid to ask them for help when we so desperately needed it and they desperately needed to learn life skills. It is amazing how many young adults can’t do simple things for themselves. It’s not their fault. They don’t know what they don’t know until they are faced with some everyday common tasks and then they feel embarrassed to ask for help. I get that there are exceptions to the rule, so please don’t feel like you have to defend your adult children if they fall into this category. If you did make mistakes, it’s never too late to apologize. If you are still raising younger ones at home, hopefully you have made some good changes. I am praying that they learned from our mistakes (as well as theirs) and do things differently with their own kids. Lord willing, that will look like a better balance between work and play and between lots of stuff and no stuff.
3. I can use their ideas to enhance my relationship with God.
I have said often before that what is happening in the natural is an indication of what is happening in the spiritual. I think God is using the mentality of this generation to teach us something. As I look back at the greatest generation, they lived through the great depression and their relationship with God appeared to be full of religion and full of poverty mentality. I am not lumping all into this category, I am speaking in generalities. The baby boomers still had much religion but were beginning to grab the fullness of the gifts and authority available to us (just as we grabbed ahold of everything life was willing to offer us a few decades ago). The entitlement generation is reaching up to Daddy God and not just asking, but expecting the fullness of everything He has for them. The ones who are tapped into the Father, Son and Holy Spirit won’t take no for an answer. They are running hard after God! They are making Him the first priority! They know how to boldly come to the throne of grace! I feel like these 3 verses in Hebrews display what we should learn from them:
Hebrews 4: 14-16The Message (MSG)
14-16 Now that we know what we have—Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God—let’s not let it slip through our fingers. We don’t have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He’s been through weakness and testing, experienced it all—all but the sin. So let’s walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help.
The most valuable gift we can take from this generation is the boldness to take what we know is rightfully ours as sons and daughters of the most high God. It’s okay to feel entitled to everything that God has for you! You don’t have to work like a maniac or jump through any hoops for it! You just have to accept the love and the grace that He is so willing and ready to pour out. Let’s adopt the entitlement mentality when it comes to our relationship with God and get everything Daddy has for us!
For the Kingdom,