November 9th will mark the first year of my husband’s sudden passing. That morning time stood still while simultaneously everything changed. Each and every day since then I have marveled at the goodness of God and the generosity of family and friends that have surrounded and supported our family for this entire year. I have to say that I don’t think one day has gone by that someone hasn’t sent me a text, FB inbox message or called to say that they were praying for us.
This blog has been on my heart for two months and I pray that I don’t forget anyone. Grief on this level makes your brain equivalent to swiss cheese for most of the first year, so I am asking for forgiveness if I miss someone. I am keeping names anonymous as according to the Word:
Matthew 6:2-4New Living Translation (NLT)
2 When you give to someone in need, don’t do as the hypocrites do—blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streets to call attention to their acts of charity! I tell you the truth, they have received all the reward they will ever get. 3 But when you give to someone in need, don’t let your left hand know what your right hand is doing. 4 Give your gifts in private, and your Father, who sees everything, will reward you.
Thank you to all of you who gave to the memorial fund that got us through those first few months as we prayed for direction and caught our breath. Thank you to family members (on both sides, Mom, brothers and sisters) who gave and took care of a million things behind the scenes that only you would know needed covering and still continue to do so! Thank you to the many church members who prayed, cleaned, did laundry, dishes, ran errands, gave even our of their own lack, housed out of town family and took care of many details the first week. Thank you to my Atlantic Christian school family for their prayers and support. Thank you to the faculty who helped to carry us through the year. A huge thank you to the two families who covered tuition for the rest of the year! You know who you are and your reward is great in heaven!
Thank you to my wonderful friends who made sure we had meals for almost a month. What a blessing to not have to think about what to do for dinner all of that time! Thank you to the girls in my bible study who threw me a birthday party to cheer me up in December and love on me in Eric’s absence. To the friends who would pick me up and take me out for breakfast, coffee or lunch just to get me out of the house, I am so grateful. Thank you to my wonderful friend who immediately flew in from Florida and stayed for a week and to my friend who stayed overnight! To my friends who sat in my kitchen for a week and didn’t leave, I thank you. To the friends who gave me my space when I needed it, thank you! To my old friends who showed up, I am so glad we re-connected!
Thank you to Christ in Action for replacing my broken toilet when I didn’t know how (I did try to you tube it) and for moving furniture (twice!) for me. To the wonderful families at Praise who have raked leaves (and are still volunteering to help us again), fixed leaks, painted, washed windows, caulked and just called to see if I needed anything done, you have made this year easier. I can’t even begin to say thank you enough for the prayer coverage and emotional support the Pastors and elders haven been to our entire family this year! Thank you to the men who have come along side of my kids to assist in Eric’s absence.
To my neighbors and friends who mowed and took care of leaves last year, helped us with lawn mower repairs this year and fixed sprinklers heads, cleaned gutters and most recently rescued baby squirrels from under the solar panels, you are a blessing!
To Eric’s friend from the old neighborhood (you know who you are), thank you to you and your wife for caring about what kind of a year my kids were going to have. You left me speechless!
Thank you to the waitress who has a heart for the fatherless and to the local business that welcomes all widows and honors God with the scripture: James 1:27
Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.
I am sure I must have missed someone or something. I greatly apologize if that is you! Just know that it all meant so much to the three of us! God has laid out our blueprints for the immediate future and we are certain that all of you have played a part in our healing process and new direction. As we face these next few days with heavy hearts, our hearts will also rejoice in the family and friends that we have in our lives! God bless you all.
[ A psalm of David. ] I give you thanks, O Lord, with all my heart; I will sing your praises before the gods. I bow before your holy Temple as I worship. I praise your name for your unfailing love and faithfulness; for your promises are backed by all the honor of your name. As soon as I pray, you answer me; you encourage me by giving me strength. …